Tag Archive: blogging


I can’t smile(y) without you

A very short entry this week.

Sometimes, the words just don’t come, and aren’t even hidden behind the white noise of thoughts.

That made me think slightly- are we losing our skill with words?  I’m a huge Douglas Adams fan, his various writings and gentle British humour are surely to be treasured.

As a result, I stumbled across the blog entry and I think I’ll subscribe to it’s theory. Once a week, no smileys.

I’ll try and avoid lol as well. I type It far more than I actually “lol”, as I’m sure we all do!

https://adasociety.wordpress.com/about/

“Can’t smile without you”, Barry Manilow

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Back in black

So, here we are again! I’m going to try and post a weekly blog (again) and hopefully not run out of songs to title them with.

Big year of change coming up and if you follow me on Twitter then you’ll know the news about the twins on the way. I’m sure there will be mention, but it’s not going to be exclusively about them and the experience.

So, week one, just an introductory one.

“It’s been too long, I’m glad to be back”
AC/DC, Back In Black

Do you want the truth…

…Or something beautiful?

One of the suggestions from the postaweek tag last week was “Why did you start blogging?”. Also, a general tweet appeared on my twitter stream from a Journo student friend a few weeks ago with a very similar request of “please share with me the reasons you write”.

So, it seems I should answer this before the universe goes to such extremes as freak cloud formations or to keep asking that question…

When my last relationship ended, one of the things I learned was that I keep my thoughts and feelings inside too much (well, was told, but I was actually listening so I feel I learned it!). Since then I’ve heard from someone different the words “closed book”, had some verbal feedback on my blog of “well I just can’t write as vaguely as you do”, and my best friend has used the phrase “well- it’s JB. Who knows what’s going on there!”

So, the blogging answer is simple- it’s to try and get me into the habit of saying what’s on my mind in a frank and open way. I like that people are reading the witterings I put out there, and feel able to feed back to me. It’s always a challenge to write stuff that I know isn’t just public but that I know people who I know will read, and know about me.

But (and isn’t there always a ‘but’?)

I was asked something completely different this week. What I was asked isn’t really important to this blog, but I gave an honest response (equally personal) and I feel good that I felt able to, and also that I did. The ‘but’ kicks in here in that this progress doesn’t feel good, because it was negative answer to a personal question.

Sometimes you’re making progress, sometimes you’re taking two steps backwards… I think I’m making progress in being able to talk about things, and share my vulnerabilities & feelings, yet it seems that progress in other areas will be slow and rocky at best. Maybe I run my life better with the security that only I really know what I’m feeling, but that’s clearly unhealthy as far as all forms of interpersonal relationships go.

So next time you (whoever you are!) ask me a question, I may respond with lines from Paloma Faith’s song and debut album title:

I can be who you want me to be, but do you want me?
Do you want the truth, or something beautiful?

Barljo

I’ll be coming home next year…

So, next year then. Don’t worry, this isn’t a blog of transparent optimism or resolutions to be a better man.

For much of this year, I’ve tried to post once a week. I’ve generally made it, but there’s times when I’ve missed a week here and there. Reading back, I can’t find a decent reason why. “I was a bit ill”, “I didn’t want to bore you” just shouldn’t cut it, and are pretty indicative of the lazy and mentally ‘meuh’ year I’ve had.

So for next year, I’ve signed up to WordPress’ post-a-week project. I know it won’t be easy, but it might be fun, inspiring, awesome and wonderful. Therefore I’m promising myself to make use of The DailyPost, and the community of other bloggers with similar goals, to help me along the way. Including asking for help when I need it and encouraging others when I can.

If you already read my blog, I hope you’ll continue to read it. It shouldn’t change what I write about, although some ideas may come out of left field a little. Comment if you like, Like if you like, forget if you like. Anything is cool.

The final title of this year is from the wonderful Foo Fighters, and a great way to start a year! “I’m in the sky tonight. There I can keep by your side.”

Stay safe and cool over New Year dudes.

Barljo